MBTI Type: ESFJ
Sansa’s emotions are worn on her sleeve and she frequently discusses how she feels to anyone who will listen. Her ability to please other people (and her desire to do so) helps her survive the humiliations and threats of the world around her. She has a kind heart and is angry when Arya upsets the balance; having Joffrey cause emotional turmoil distresses her, and she is devastated at the thought of others being unhappy with her. Sansa adapts to her emotional environment and expects others to do the same. Because she is so emotional, Sansa finds it difficult to disconnect and be objective, but her traumatic experiences force her to analyze her situation, form conclusions, and then take steps to protect herself in the most rational way possible (protecting Littlefinger also means she is hidden, safe, and protected). She has no desire to depart from social expectations or the traditions of the past and the realm – she wants to get married and have children, as is expected of her. She knows that life has proceeded this way for generations, and the thought of being a part of that process gives her a sense of inner well being. Her sister’s reluctance to embrace traditional roles irritates Sansa, who expects everyone to “have their place” and do as they are told. Her own personal experiences help reinforce her decisions in the present, and also cause her to long for the former happiness of home. Sansa finds comfort in building a snow castle of Winterfell, since it lets her emotionally relive, for an instant, much more innocent and happier times. Her imagination is vibrant, but builds off of tangible things; she likes to imagine what her marriage will be like and is impatient to make it happen. She is eager for change and the idea of abandoning Winterfell for a more glamorous place. Early on, she is naïve and oblivious to the inner-workings of the politics around her, but as she grows older, Sansa becomes very good at reading other people and sensing their hidden motivations (developing Ne). The more mature she becomes, the more Sansa conceals her harsh opinions — and she can be callous in her assessment of others, in her decision to execute Littlefinger, and in her promotion of whatever is best for The North (as a Fe, she sees herself as representing them). She is often withdrawn and sharp in her words, brutal in her assessment of others and as she gets older, she becomes more skeptical of their motives.
Enneagram: 3w2 sp/so
Sansa is nothing if not ambitious and image-centered, wanting to go higher in the social hierarchy until she finds out what a horrible person Joffrey is, and then using whatever tactics she can employ against him. To survive, she becomes whatever the situation demands of her. She’s skilled at playing a “role” and being whatever the Tyrells and Lannisters want her to be – up to a point. She enjoys being in charge of Winterfell, though her advice often conflicts with what Jon wants; yet she often defers to him, as a sexual 3, by promoting him as King of Winterfell. Her 2 wing makes her desperate to be liked. She wants to appear desirable to the people she cares about, and becomes overly fixated at first on appealing to Joffrey and merging with him. Her disintegration 9 comes out under stress (becoming apathetic, lethargic, and even passive).