Function Order: Te-Si-Ne-Fi

Phyllis is an extremely intelligent, competent woman whose main interests are not housework, but in shaping and organizing the world around her. She has a heavy interest in nuclear defense and hopes to convince lawmakers of the rationalities of listening to her arguments. She edits the work of esteemed politicians in her down time. Though she initially ignores the feminist movement, once it draws her attention, Phyllis organizes a counter-organization of conservatives against it. She does things that frustrate or alarm her Fe-dom members, such as ignoring personal biases in favor of presenting a united front (though she does not like the racism one member espouses, she also knows that she needs to use her influence to win over that state’s legislature). When an opponent in a debate attacks her for not having a law degree, she decides to go out and get herself one, easily acing the entrance exam. In school, she asks more pressing, “interesting” legal questions in her search for immediate answers and evidence. Phyllis keeps a firm hand on everything going on in her life at once, from her children’s’ schedules to knowing the value of her mailing list (“It took me years to build that up, it’s valuable, and he just wants me to give it to him?”). She has a strong will and though she ‘acts’ submissive to her husband in public, playing the role of a housewife, she fails to realize that she is not what she espouses—a woman dedicated only to her children. She knows a great deal about her chosen fields of nuclear power and warfare, of grassroots campaigning, and of what it takes to be a wife and homemaker. Somehow, Phyllis juggles the responsibilities of home and work at the same time, showing an astounding ability to retain information and put it to use. She knows how to get around people and recruit them to her side, using what they have in common, and male / female stereotypes. (She and the other Eagles win over congressmen’s votes to her side using homemade bread and jam.) Phyllis does not like change and fears the inevitable outcome—she latches onto tert-Ne arguments without fully researching them herself, which can make her look foolish in the eyes of her opponents, due to her broad generalizations. She creates straw men arguments to mobilize people, all based in an uncertain future (women in foxholes). But as others point out that she doesn’t always know what she’s talking about when debating, Phyllis digs deep into her Si need for total authority and chooses to widen her knowledge base through law school. Phyllis often ignores her emotions and those of other people, in pursuit of her goals; at a luncheon, oblivious to the presence of an unmarried woman near her 40s, she insists all feminists must be “old and angry unmarried women, envious of what they do not have, who could convince no one to marry them.” Often, if a situation involves delicate discussion and emotional ground, she’ll ask one of her ESFJ friends to do it for her, “since you are so much better with people than I am.”

Enneagram: 3w2 so/sp

Phyllis is ambitious and driven. She has tried a number of times to achieve public office and blames herself for her losses, although to save face she will say “my husband days if this hadn’t happened…” She has a strong sense of what she can do, and an over-inflated tendency to believe she should make all the important decisions and be in charge. But there’s a “split” between who she actually is… and how she sees herself. Phyllis is at constant war with her fake self (a submissive wife and mother) and her true self (a woman who wants to win, who wears the pants in the family, but doesn’t like people to know it). She 3ishly re-frames things in her favor (loses are wins, if you look at them right) and cannot stand being humiliated or shown up or having her image dented. When her husband says she’s “submissive at home,” she is obviously angry about it in an interview, but covers it up with a smile. Phyllis feels pumped up about being included in an all-male meeting in Washington, only to feel angry when they ask her to take notes like a secretary. Her 2 wing turns its attention to social improvement, to helping bring others together (she tries to introduce a single friend to eligible men and get her husband to make the introduction), but also shows a bit of vanity in her role as a “homemaker.”