MBTI Type: ESFJ
Elinor is the embodiment of someone who wants to train up her daughter to behave in the “expected manner” for a princess, and their conflicts show a classic clash between Merida’s high Fi resistance to conformity and her mother’s wish that she could simply be appropriate. She admitted despite being anxious about being engaged at her daughter’s age, she went ahead and did it. Elinor then became a good queen, focused on doing what is best for everyone… even if it means ‘squashing’ her daughter’s sense of independence at first. Only by spending time with her daughter, and seeing her usefulness, and coming to value her as something beautiful and special (even if she doesn’t do what most girls should) does Elinor’s feelings toward her change; she opens up and allows her daughter to “break with tradition,” and “fall in love” on her own time. It’s only traumatic experiences and a loss of her inner sense that scares her enough to consider that her previous judgments may have been wrong. She upholds the traditions of the clans and values the legends of their ancestry, saying there are moral lessons in fairy tales – but Elinor doesn’t realize how right she is, nor that the story she tells about the four kingdoms that fell is incomplete, since it doesn’t include what befell the prince that chose to defeat his brothers. She has a great deal of respect for ‘how things are done’ and wants to protect them, until her daughter shows her an alternative way of being. Elinor spends her days sewing and attempting to teach her daughter proper behaviors; she values the history she is making within her family.
Enneagram: 1w2 so/sp
Elinor focuses mostly on “appropriate behavior.” She wants her children to be well-behaved (with a tri of ESTP twins, good luck). She wants her husband to behave himself (with a 7w8 ESTP, good luck). And she especially wants her daughter to behave herself, act appropriately, not embarrass her in public, and not be rude to the clansmen. In her attempts to help Merida become more proper, she squelches her individuality and creativity. Even as a bear, she tries to be appropriate and comes across as buttoned up – being concerned about being “naked,” making sure her crown is still on her head, setting a dainty table for breakfast, and being reluctant to learn how to catch fish with her teeth. The thought that she has done anything wrong, and hurt the people she loves, devastates her. But she is also warm-hearted, willing to comfort and console her children, and able to forgive them.