Functional Order: Fi-Se-Ni-Te

Jane deals with incredible emotional blows with stoic strength. She cries when she sees Stephen struggling to play croquet, but has no hesitation in making her decisions or pursuing what she wants; she tells him straight out to his face that she loves him, and she doesn’t care what lies ahead; they need to act right here, and now. She never complains about how hard it is, or voices objections to her husband’s and kids’ rowdiness even when it interrupts her studies. She burns with quiet emotional presence. She also makes decisions on how she specifically feels – when they ask whether or not to remove Stephen from the breathing machine, even though it means he’ll never speak again, because she loves him and feels his life is valuable, she says save him…at all costs. Even though it troubles her that Stephen doesn’t believe in God, she lets him believe what he wants. She uses useful methods of communication (the color board, the computer) and practicality. When she needs help, she asks for it. When Stephen needs a wheelchair, she provides one. She never argues with him about it, she just puts it in his life. When Stephen argues against God, as clouding a scientist’s judgment, she hits him back with a snappy logical conclusion, that he is proving God, while disproving God. Her argument for marriage to Stephen is that they need to make the best of the time they have, no matter how short it might be, and she’s so invested in each moment that, years later, she looks back and realizes he’s lived much longer than either of them expected. Jane tackles the hardships of the physical requirements of their marriage without hesitation; she makes them a house and home, she introduces a wheelchair when it’s time, and she adapts to a new life once their interests and affections fade. She thanks him for inviting her along to meet the Queen, because it was a “once-in-a-lifetime experience.” She can figure out his theories fairly quickly, and draw them to their deeper conclusion; she can explain complex ideas to others. She has her heart set on a single course of study (poetry from other cultures), and never wavers, eventually getting her degree. Jane looks toward the future, anticipating increasing challenges due to his physical limitations.

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Jane is selfless and giving, entirely focused on serving all of Stephen’s needs without over-emphasizing her own struggles. She never asks for anything in return, but instead prioritizes him in her life, making him the center of her world, and putting her own hobbies on the sidelines. She is compliant to his needs and wishes, and hesitant to talk about her own unfulfilled sexual needs. Jane feels a sense of duty toward Stephen, in addition to love, which comes from her 1 wing’s desire to do the right thing, be there for him, and serve him because of their marriage vows.