Functional Order: Fi-Se-Ni-Te
Jim is a highly sensitive man who doesn’t like conflict or for his wife to “stay mad at him” very long. But he can also be stubborn and persistent – he insists on fixing up their home himself rather than paying a contractor, he often becomes authoritative when dealing with troublesome spirits (upsetting Melinda by trying to put limitations on her engagement with ghosts—his inferior Te becoming “bossy”), and he doesn’t really understand why she needs to help them so much in the first place. For one thing, it’s cutting in on his time with her. For another, she needs more boundaries. Jim isn’t very forthcoming with his feelings, and was alienated from his father for years before the man died. His dad wanted him to go into the family business, but Jim struck out on his own and became a paramedic so he could help people. “It made me happy,” he says, “and my dad miserable.” He chose a profession that demands quick reactivity and thinking, and the ability to improvise in the environment. Jim is very present and in the moment. He likes to work on their house and figure out things as he goes, but he isn’t wonderful at it. He wants a normal life with Melinda where they take vacations and don’t have to wrangle ghosts. Jim is down to earth and practical, often teasing his wife about her silliness (why do you watch scary movies… and why are you scared, you have seen this six times already?). He is quick to adapt to emergencies, and doesn’t have much fondness for his past or interest in old things. He shows occasional flits of insight, but his conclusions are often wrong. Jim has no real ability to fix things, so he cobbles them together—often blowing fuses in the process. He also cuts a friend off, because he offended Melinda, which caused Jim to see him in a new light.
Enneagram: 6w5 sp/so
Jim is far more cautious than his wife—when a ghost accuses their new next door neighbor of being a murderer, Melinda wants to know more, and Jim wants to call the cops. He wants to have them run a background trace and tells his wife to stay away from the man, and not help this time. He often tries to protect her and is apprehensive about some of her more violent, aggressive ghost visitors. Jim is also loyal. He remains friends with someone, until Melinda objects to him, then he asks him to leave (after arguing about it first). He can be quarrelsome and contrarian at times. He tells Melinda she should not give of herself so much and points out how the ghosts are draining her. When ‘influenced’ by a spirit that has latched onto him, Jim becomes uncharacteristically moody, which causes him distress – he wants his wife to feel safe, so he wants to get rid of the spirit as quick as possible. He connects through humor, but can also be withdrawn and non-interfering.