Gilmore Girls: Lane Kim [INFP 9w1]

Functional Order: Fi-Ne-Si-Te

Judging Functional Axis:

Introverted Feeling (Fi) / Extroverted Thinking (Te)

Lane is a compassionate girl who cares deeply about Rory and their friendship, but is also often talking about herself, her own interests, and what she wants from her life—in the process, at times missing out on what Rory is experiencing or her best friend’s lack of interest in her conversations. Lane feels a strong need to be her own person, to figure out who she is, and to separate herself from her upbringing – she almost doesn’t date a guy she likes, because he’s too much like someone her Mama would pick for her and approve of (a Korean doctor). Lane often does things out of an emotional reaction, such as when she sets up a complicated poster to advertise for new band members, then hangs up on people who aren’t as “deep” into musical trivia as she is (unbelievable!!). She’s capable of holding down a job, being responsible, and getting her homework done on time, but also tends to act decisively to get what she wants, even if it’s just to dye her hair purple in rebellion… and change it back a few hours later, before her mother can see it and “kill me.”

Perceiving Functional Axis:

Extroverted Intuition (Ne) / Introverted Sensing (Si)

Lane has rather unrealistic expectations about her life in the future, which includes becoming famous for being in a band, fending off questions from the press, pretending to be sad about how fame was not what she really wanted, and how she “did it all for the music.” She finagles a deal in which she can practice on a drum set in exchange for working out at the band store. She often has runaway thought patterns—when Rory is dying her hair, and Lane is trying to ignore the burning sensation in her scalp, she speaks her thoughts aloud, which ramble between topics, go off on rabbit trails, and wind up with unrelated ideas. She is witty and quick to respond to Lorelai and Rory’s conversations, contributing odd factoids in the process. Lane sometimes lets the negative run away with her, whenever she’s obsessing over something and imagining how it might all go wrong. Lane’s pretty open to new possibilities, but finds it hard to completely break away from her upbringing. She simultaneously hates her upbringing and Korean culture, and finds it hard to step away from it, participating in traditional behaviors and ideas despite disliking them. She tends to categorize and stockpile information about the stuff she loves, a walking encyclopedia for random, rare musical bands and music-related information. She devotes herself to her music, improving over long years of practice.

Enneagram: 9w1 so/sp

Lane wants to be rebellious and her own person, but the thought of her mother’s disapproval and harassment and judgment keeps her from being herself around her mother. She has to hide her CD collection, keep her band sweaters at Rory’s house, and disguise concert tickets under the guise of “going to a very moral play, Mama.” But guilt for misbehaving and lying often causes Lane to break down and tell her mother the truth, resulting in her being grounded. Lane abides by her mother’s rules even when she chafes against them. She’s fearful of earning disapproval and tries to keep everyone around her happy all the time. Once in awhile, Lane will confront Rory about being an absentee and distracted friend, but for the most part goes along with everything.