MBTI Type: ESFP

Judy is all about full, hands-on engagement, and doesn’t like to wait; she has had numerous husbands, and proposes to another, because every minute she’s without him seems like “a waste of precious time.” After being kicked out of a hotel for not paying her bill, she drives her kids to their father’s house, then finds a party to hang out in, and stays up all night talking and drinking and playing games with her future husband. She is known to be a “party” animal, who drowns her sorrows in alcohol and pills. It’s easy for her to get caught up in the moment. As a child, she could be defiant at not being allowed to taste the sensory pleasures of life – to combat her birthday being “fake” on a movie set, she ripped off her dress and dove into the fake pool, to ruin her hair. She grabs a hamburger away from Mickey Rooney and stuffs it into her mouth, because she was never allowed to eat anything substantial, so she would not get “fat.” Judy has some low Ni apprehensiveness about where she is headed, but doesn’t think much about the future in a meaningful way, though she does find intellectual talk “interesting.” Judy is kind to anyone with whom she personally identifies – she has dinner with two gay men, and tells them the world doesn’t understand people who are “different,” but she does, and thus has an affinity with them. She is protective about her kids and wants to take good care of them, but has a poor work ethic due to her addictions and self-absorption. Judy turns up hours late to her performances, and thinks nothing of it; she feels easily insulted whenever people call her on it, or boo her for being half-drunk on the stage. She lashes out with insults in return that threaten to ruin her “family friendly” image. But she tries to give her life structure, she goes after what she wants, and she will apologize when necessary.

Enneagram: 4w3 so/sx

Judy can be her own worst enemy. She doesn’t seem to focus on the good things in her life, so much as what has been “done” to her that was wrong; she doesn’t cover up the fact that she was starved and mistreated as a child, told she was fat and ugly, denied simple pleasures, and “slept maybe 3 hours a night” – instead, she broadcasts that to anyone who will listen, as part of her image of brokenness. She finds something wrong, no matter what stage of life she is in, and can be quite hateful to her new husband—when a job offer falls through that would have provided her with an opportunity, she calls him a failure and asks if he’s ever done anything meaningful in his life. If she doesn’t feel like working, she simply makes no attempt to show up. She throws tantrums as a child if she cannot have something her way (a proper, “real” birthday). But she also basks in the limelight and enjoys the success and praise the stage brings her.