MBTI Type: INFJ

Much of what Christabel says to Ash is in poetic, high abstracting terms (“One cannot stand in a fire and not be consumed; I cannot let you burn me up, nor can I resist you”) and she becomes frustrated when he cannot ‘see her true self’ and mistakes her obscure comment (“You have made a murderess of me”) as a reference to their child. She has the more individualized, personally symbolic poetry, full of metaphorical nuances and meaning. Until Ash comes into her life, she lives a quiet existence in “a life that I have chosen,” and sees no reason for excessive socialization; she is reluctant to step outside that, but also impulsive and careless of inhibitions and social constraints and expectations when she falls in love (inferior Se). She tries to call off their letter writing by referencing that they live in a time when society would frown on a married man writing a single woman who lives with a female companion; she mentions his wife’s potential distress, and uses that as her guide for (temporary) resistance. She is confrontational with her lover and admits earnestly what has become of them since she fell in love (“We are a house of weeping and wailing and black headaches”). Christabel both reassures Ash that their sacrifice is worth momentary pleasure, and blames others rather than herself for the consequences of their actions (outward emotional focus). She can be resolved, private, and high abstracting in her poetry (Ni/Ti loop).

Enneagram: 1w9 so/sx

Christobel has a moralistic tendency to use moral arguments against their affair (what will your wife think, what will society say?). She is excessively harsh upon herself after the fact, when she sees the pain it has caused others, and spends the rest of her life in subtle atonement for her actions, wallowing in her penance (their daughter does not love her, and that is her burden). In that space, she falls into disintegration 4ish behaviors (emotionalism, feeling wronged by Ash, and dwelling on Blanche’s death). She can be stubborn and avoidant, refusing to see her lover after Blanche’s death, keeping the truth of their child from him until he lies on his deathbed, and complaining that their affair has brought “much weeping, and wailing, and the blackest of headaches” into her life. She wants peace in her relationships and in her life; she lives a quiet life in the country and is not very active, she rebuffs a male visitor’s attentions by encouraging him to write letters rather than see her in person, and she’s evasive when questioned about her relationship and feelings with him, to avoid causing her female partner distress.