Functional Order: Fi-Se-Ni-Te
Diana admits she doesn’t always understand what she truly wants until she faces the threat of “losing it” – she wasn’t sure she wanted to try and save her marriage to Charles until he was almost killed in an avalanche, and then the yawning emptiness of the possibility of his death shook her to her very core. She suffers largely in silence for months of unhappiness, and at other times, freezes her husband out—ignoring his knocks at the door and his appeals for her to come out and join him at lunch with his mother by turning up the television set. She is highly sensitive, easily hurt/offended, and seeking an “ally” among the royal family to no avail—her pleas for her mother-in-law to help, guide, and even protect her from herself go largely unacknowledged, and her hug is met with an awkward stiffness. Diana says that the only way she can express her feelings is by dancing. She also fails to understand what Charles wants from her, because she has no way to sense what he is feeling—so she goes by what she feels instead. (Their double-Fi inability to understand each other causes a “chasm” between them, because they do not speak each other’s languages.) Her husband accuses her of being, to his horror, “intellectually incurious,” meaning she doesn’t think about things in the same way he does, and prefers to focus on tangible sensory experiences instead. She loves to go to balls, galas, and the theater. Diana loves to dance, sing, perform in front of people, roller skate through the halls of Buckingham Palace (out of sheer boredom) while listening to tunes. She is a natural decorator but it only took her a “few weeks” to figure out what she wanted to do with the house, and then she was bored and became unhappy. Once she starts her affairs, her sister-in-law Anne says that Diana has had numerous lovers, and it’s like “a revolving door” into her office. She sees her husband’s drawings for a bracelet for Camilla and knows the affair has not ended, which causes her greater uncertainty and depression and falls into bulimic episodes where she gorges herself on food only to vomit it up later.
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Diana just wants to be loved and give love. She tries numerous ways to make her husband love her, from being supportive on his tours to performing for him in public and in private, to giving him reassurances and flattery… and when she receives nothing in return, from Charles or anyone else in the royal family, she becomes despondent, resentful, and feels “entitled” to seek love wherever she can find it, with whomever is available to her and willing to make her feel desired. She thrives most when the crowd loves her, when she’s in London and able to be “seen,” and when she is needed by her children. Diana lavishes the love on them that Charles has no interest in receiving. She loves to receive praise, admiration, affection, and encouragement and almost begs the queen to give her attention. She develops into a philanthropist heavily involved in charities. Later in the series, we will see her 8ish tendencies start to come out, as she “lets them have it” in the press. She loves order, precision, and appropriateness, but this later leads to purging behaviors (self-punishment for over-indulgence).