MBTI Type: ISFP

Diana admits she doesn’t always understand what she truly wants until she faces the threat of “losing it” – she wasn’t sure she wanted to try and save her marriage to Charles until he was almost killed in an avalanche, and then the yawning emptiness of the possibility of his death shook her to her very core. She suffers largely in silence for months of unhappiness, and at other times, freezes her husband out—ignoring his knocks at the door and his appeals for her to come out and join him at lunch with his mother by turning up the television set. She is highly sensitive, easily hurt/offended, and seeking an “ally” among the royal family to no avail—her pleas for her mother-in-law to help, guide, and even protect her from herself go largely unacknowledged, and her hug is met with an awkward stiffness. Diana says that the only way she can express her feelings is by dancing. She also fails to understand what Charles wants from her, because she has no way to sense what he is feeling—so she goes by what she feels instead. (Their double-Fi inability to understand each other causes a “chasm” between them, because they do not speak each other’s languages.) Her husband accuses her of being, to his horror, “intellectually incurious,” meaning she doesn’t think about things in the same way he does, and prefers to focus on tangible sensory experiences instead. She loves to go to balls, galas, and the theater. Diana loves to dance, sing, perform in front of people, roller skate through the halls of Buckingham Palace (out of sheer boredom) while listening to tunes. She is a natural decorator but it only took her a “few weeks” to figure out what she wanted to do with the house, and then she was bored and became unhappy. Once she starts her affairs, her sister-in-law Anne says that Diana has had numerous lovers, and it’s like “a revolving door” into her office. She sees her husband’s drawings for a bracelet for Camilla and knows the affair has not ended, which causes her greater uncertainty and depression and falls into bulimic episodes where she gorges herself on food only to vomit it up later.

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Diana just wants support from the royal family, and whenever she is upset, she tries to find connections within the hierarchy. In her interview, she says she felt unsupported and left to cope alone—something that she hated. She was shy and withdrawn, but looking for someone to draw her out of her shell. And she tried to make the marriage work, and after it failed, she looked for public support, and had to air her “dirty laundry” in public. 6s tend to stir things up, and even though she fears the consequences, she wasn’t about to conceal her true feelings anymore about the marriage or her unhappiness. People like her, because she’s down to earth, seems sincere, and puts on no airs or pretenses; she diffuses others with pleasantness and sweetness. But she can also be paranoid and suspicious, convinced she is being listened to due to the clicks on the phone (she’s right), and unsure of who to trust. 6s either trust too much or too little, and her brother calls her naïve and easily mislead. Diana at first is passive and accommodating, but as she gets more and more resentful of her life, she starts acting out aggressively against the royal family. As a sexual type, Diana desperately seeks a connection, and when that fails to materialize with Charles, she looks for someone to lean on elsewhere. Her 7 wing needs stimulation and entertainment, things to look forward to, shopping to get done, and looks outward for attention, affirmation, and distractions from her marriage being on the rocks.