MBTI Type: ESFP

Graham is an opportunistic dad who uses his time off to get “inordinately pissed” with drink and make random hook ups (“I kiss total strangers all the time…”) in order to escape the pain of being a single dad of two kids and a widower of two years. He wastes no time in falling into bed with Amanda, nor in getting to know her, and believes in living in the moment with her, which she finds difficult to do since she is already thinking up reasons not to get emotionally involved. He is charming and social, but also admits that “I find… I tend to hurt women” without meaning to, because “I’m always forgetting to call after a date.” Though he invites Amanda to lunch and wants to know all about her, he doesn’t discuss his family or his dead wife with her, keeping that a secret sequestered away at home. He admits that wasn’t entirely fair of him when she challenges him on it. Graham tends to keep his deeper feelings inside, though he does muster up the nerve to tell her he loves her. He can be quite blunt at times (“I feel like I am being interrogated… do you possibly know how to be on a date?”), but is also reassuring and encouraging to Amanda (“you see? You’re already better at this than you think!”). He works as a successful book editor, and rattles off a list of things he’s learning to do for his kids’ sake (sew, keep a cow, cook, etc). Graham knows how to be present and attentive, and is not all that worried about how this “might pan out” in the future; he just trusts that what is meant to be, will be… and is surprised to find himself more attached to Amanda than he thought he would be.

Enneagram: 2w3 sx/sp

Graham is “looking for love… even if it’s just for one night.” He is charming, affirming, encouraging, and good-natured, easily chats up Amanda and gets her into bed (though he’s drunk at the time), then sets out to take care of her in the hopes of forming a deeper attachment. When she gets knock-down drunk at the pup, he takes her home and stays “because you asked me to.” He spends all of his time as a dad taking care of his kids and going out of his way to please them, from making them an amazing tent in their room to playing Mr. Napkin Head for their amusement. He cries easily (“more than any woman you’ve ever known”) at books, films, and in real life. But when he’s not plying a woman with attention, Graham admits that he can be forgetful—out of sight, out of mind, and I shan’t call you tomorrow.