Functional Order: Te-Si-Ne-Fi
Anthony has a rigid system he uses to judge whether or not young hopefuls are good candidates for his sister’s hand in marriage—he considers whether they have fortunes, are philanderers (rakes), how bad their gambling debts are, and if they have good breeding or poor. He has such impeccably high standards, Daphne fears no one will ever be good enough to pass his inspection. When he finds a man he prefers, because of his intelligence, fortune, and decent breeding, Anthony “informs” Daphne that she will marry him, with no regard for her personal preferences or her opinions. It’s not until she finds a more suitable match in Simon (or so her brother thinks, though he argues against this since Simon has a history as “a rake… whose intentions may not be honorable”) that Anthony releases his need to control all of her decisions and the “family welfare” and allows her some room to pursue her own happiness. Though he would really rather just make love to his mistress, Anthony also feels a sense of familial duty since he is the eldest and should provide for and look after the family. He makes rational provisions for them all, should anything happen to him in a duel he challenges another man to, reminding his brothers to rise to the occasion and do “right” by the family. He has a strict mindset of how things are done in society (arranged marriages by rank and merging bloodlines) and takes people’s past histories into account when passing judgment on them. He fears any slight upon his sisters will “ruin them all.” He also powerfully underestimates not only his feelings, but those of everyone else… he assumes he is not in love, that his dalliance with his mistress was just a fling, and that he can move on and “get over her.” Anthony soon realizes this is wrong, for his heart was more involved than he thought. And once he has his heart broken, he decides that he wants a traditional life after all… that he will court and marry a wife and perhaps even provide the family with heirs.
Enneagram: 3w2 so/sp
Anthony is someone different, depending on who he is with—he is a demanding, somewhat controlling patriarch within his family unit as he sets clear goals and goes about ensuring his sister marries the ‘right’ kind of person; with Simon, he is a fighter and a rake; with Siena, he is a decent lover and wants to fill her every desire, showing his tendency to bounce back and forth, unable to figure out who he is, to listen to his heart, or to separate himself from others’ expectations. He wants to do his own thing and be something of an irresponsible rake, but that’s not what society and his family expects, so he forces himself to conform to doing what’s ‘necessary.’ He is highly focused on appropriateness and the appearance of morals, without being moral himself; he ruthlessly points out the flaws in each of her suitors once they draw his attention, and he steamrolls his sister in overriding all of her choices and insisting she marry the ‘right sort of man’ that he has chosen for her (with the ‘right’ kind of money). It takes a great deal of courage on his part to ask Siena to come with him to the ball, saying that because of his position, and his sister’s societal position, no one will say anything about it; she says no, and also says she won’t be with him anymore, because he wants her to ‘change herself’ to fit into the world he inhabits. Anthony is upset, but also says that is fair, and decides to put himself to the task of marriage, since it’s what is expected of him. He can be controlling and invasive through his 2 wing, interfering in Daphne’s life and making a mess out of it, by insisting that things are his duty, obligation, and task. He takes his obligation to ‘take care’ of his sister so far, he fails to consider any of her feelings in the matter, and only changes his mind about her suitor once it’s revealed he tried to assault Daphne in the garden. He also fights a duel to defend her honor.