Functional Order: Te-Ni-Se-Fi
Lady Danbury does not suffer fools easily. She is frank in her opinions and does not care who takes them amiss, as she maneuvers her way through society with direct goals in mind. She convinces Daphne’s mother that Simon and Daphne might make a fine couple, and “solve” a problem both women are having (and she is right). Lady Danbury is a woman of decisive action, who compels others to act according to the potential she sees in them, whether that is to urge Simon to pursue Daphne as a love interest and settle down after so many years of worthless pursuits, or by intuiting that the person blocking their abrupt marriage license is “not the archbishop… it is the queen!” She deftly handles politics by giving others solid advice in how to approach people (do not bow and scrape to the queen, but do not seem defiant, either). When Simon is quite young, Lady Danbury also assesses his speech impediment, determines that he is not “stupid,” as his father fears, and then sets him on a course to improve himself. She believes in him, and watches him become a “self-made man.” She says, with pride, that he worked hard and succeeded on his own merits, and she had little to do with it. She and Simon often ‘cross pistols’ in the sense that she wants him to start behaving as an adult, taking on mature responsibilities, and not running away from his situation. She does not want the scars of his father’s neglect to prevent him from reaching his full potential, which she knows will blossom with Daphne as his wife. A woman of particular taste, she is also given to extravagance behind closed doors, in her loud, boisterous gambling parties, to which only “married women” are invited.
Enneagram: 8w9 so/sp
Lady Danbury tells a young Simon that she used to be scared, and not want anyone to look at her, but then she decided to make herself in the scariest woman anyone had ever seen… and she does dominate the room. No one questions her, because she is so authoritative and fierce. She tells people what they ought to be doing, without any concern for the consequences, because nobody every challenges her back. When his father rejects him, she takes Simon under her wing, teaches him to read, hires someone to correct his stammer, and makes a man out of him, then expects him to do manly things—like settle down and get married. She is brutal in her assessment of Simon’s speech impediment and tells him that it will be hard, but she believes he can do it. Though his father doubts him and thinks him a fool, Lady Danbury invests in him, in the belief that he can achieve far more than his father surmises. She tells Simon they must always be aware of their position in society, and fight for it, that he has a duty to carry on the family line, because they had to work so hard to reach the upper levels of London society. The queen, she says, paved the way and did a great deal for “our kind,” but he can never take it for granted, since there will always be someone who wants to take it away from them—and he cannot let that happen any more than she would allow it to happen. Lady Danbury’s 9 wing makes her a bit reserved and withdrawn, willing to make comments from the sidelines, but also gives her a more tender approach with those who need it, including a scared little boy who just needs a mother.