Destination Wedding: Frank [INTJ 8w9]

Function Order: Ni-Te-Fi-Se

“It might help you to consider the idea that heartbreak is pointless, because if you had wound up with the person, eventually, you would’ve been miserable anyway.”

Frank

Almost from the first moment Frank and Lindsay meet, there is a ‘clash’ between their opposing viewpoints—her “but anything is possible, it could be different than you think” Ne-dom, and his more rigid, less idealistic Ni-governed opinions about everything from his belief that “no soul mate exists for anyone” (instead of one soul mate for everyone) to his deeply cynical and blunt assessments of his mother’s broken up marriage (her second husband left her for an “older woman”). His frank articulation of the facts (“my father leapt out a seventh story window… after he shot me”) often shocks Lindsay, along with his insightful but cutting observations into human nature and her own personality (Frank often tells her what she is thinking and how their relationship is already failing, when he’s barely into it). He coins his own words when he finds that none exist, and finds no reason to moderate his harsh views, although a certain amount of brutal logic exists in many of his conclusions (when debating who should stay and distract the mountain lion, he proposes, after a long discussion, that they both run, and nobody gets eaten). His heady nature means he has almost entirely forgone human experiences and disdains them (“who drinks wine at 10am?” “put that chocolate back in the mini bar, do you know how much it costs?”), along with sex (until an impromptu encounter after a near-death experience… on an impulsive whim, and even then he stops to ask “What if you get pregnant? And do you want a boy or a girl if you do?”).

Enneagram: 8w9 sp/sx

Frank is always ready to start an argument anywhere, with anyone, at any time, although he also doesn’t want to prolong the argument longer than is required; he just wants to win, or make Lindsay shut up, so he can go back to ignoring everyone. He is cynical, jaded, and brutal in his perspective on reality, shamelessly stripping away other people’s delusions and idealism and replacing it with gritty facts and a general lack of concern of whether people like him or not. He sees no reason to be sentimental about anything, take anything personally, or get involved on an emotional level, so he argues against Lindsay’s assertion that they have ‘formed a connection’ and ‘mean something to each other,’ and doesn’t fully understand his own desire to be with her until he gets home and finds out he… misses her.