Function Order: Te-Si-Ne-Fi
Helen has a straightforward manner to her, and states things as they are, when telling James about her bull, the calf with problems in the shed, and in the decision she makes for the welfare of her family. Though she admitted that she wanted to go to school and “see the world” beyond the Dales, after her mother died, she stayed out of obligation to her family, raised her sister, and tries to get her to behave and be attentive to the chores. She chooses to marry the first man who proposes to her, out of a sense of taking care of her father. It’s her father telling her that “we can get on…” even if she doesn’t want to keep this commitment (knowing the man is their landlord and in charge of their rents) that allows her to decide not to marry him after all—by refusing at the altar. Helen does things simply because they need done, and it’s the responsible thing to do, and is somewhat out of touch with her feelings as a result. She seems drawn toward James, but isn’t fully aware of it, won’t admit to it, and is clueless about how he truly feels about her. She asks to go with him on a veterinarian call the night before her wedding, not realizing it’s her way to ‘escape’ a situation that doesn’t fully align with her emotional desires. She’s content to live a small life, attending to the needs of the farm, and look after her sister’s physical needs, to attend the local events, and sell a bull for stud at a profit. She asks James to vouch for it, without ever thinking the bull might not be any good or that it could endanger his reputation if it isn’t. Though he admits that her cooking is dreadful, she still makes the effort for him, and takes his confession with good humor.
Enneagram: 1w2 so/sp
Helen wants to do the right thing, by her dad, by James, by Hugh, and by her family. She puts duty and others’ needs above her own desire to have her own life in the greater world and escape from home. She would rather James be honest with her than shelter her from the truth, whether that involves his feelings or his concerns about their bull. She never intended to sell Clive as ‘a good sire’ as a matter of deceit, and is horrified to learn the truth that he is lame and not good for much. Though driven and sometimes angry at others for trying to shelter her, Helen will also forgive them, receive them warmly, and tolerate their flaws. She focuses a great deal of her time and attention on trying to raise her sister right, and on being helpful and thankful when others do things for her. But ultimately, she cannot go through with anything she feels in her soul is not right.