MBTI Type: ENFJ
Joe has an effortless ability to enter any room and make a woman feel like a million bucks, by appealing to her, sensing her insecurities about herself, and paying her a compliment. He is genuinely surprised that Miss Pettigrew does not know he designed the scarf around her neck, since he assumed she was “playing” the room (and him) just as well as he can, through flattering him rather than sincerity. He takes her lavish compliments about it being the most beautiful thing she has ever worn, after that, truly to heart and enjoys the connection that her honesty gives him, in comparison to all the mindless flattery he endures. He tells one woman that she need not improve upon perfection, that she should allow her body to be its own “masterpiece.” When he asks her to dance, he infers that it’s a social obligation—but also a pleasure! Miss Pettigrew’s truthfulness makes him want to push aside all falseness and “be real” – he immediately and somewhat impulsively asks her to marry him, saying that he knows she is the one and he has been “looking for you all my life.” He feels it and instantly must act on it. He accurately intuits that his fiancé is having an affair, and jilts her without a word after she isn’t home to pick up her phone one night, but then accepts her back out of a desire to believe her (and after Miss Pettigrew makes him feel guilty for walking away from her). Though he does not remember Miss Pettigrew from her face after her makeover, he admits he “never forgets a body,” nor her wonderful eyes. In his younger years, he admits, after he lost all of his friends in the war, he “distracted myself with parties,” and left his previous job designing socks for lingerie, which he admits is easier than an honest pair of socks. Having experimented with lingerie and reached great success, he chooses at the end to return to his previous profession, since he craves a slower, more gentle existence—yet another somewhat impulsive decision, but one he feels is taking him in the right direction.
Enneagram: 3w2 sx/so
Joe competently and efficiently handles any situation that arises, without ever losing his composure or revealing his true feelings—when his fiancé slips up in front of him and tells the entire truth about cheating on him (and that the woman he is talking to, she saw in a bread line), Joe simply thanks her for finally being honest and walks away—soon recovering enough to approach Miss Pettigrew at the train station and invite her to become an active part of his life. He has been waiting for her his entire life, perhaps because she’s the first person to not know or care who he is, and to be honest in her compliments, but also in the harsh truths she tells him. He enjoys being flattered and praised, is hard-working, and unflustered by setbacks, but also has a need to love and be loved, and a tendency to cut people off who have taken advantage of his good nature (2 wing).