Letters to Juliet: Charlie [ESTJ 1w2]

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Charlie really doesn’t want his grandmother to go off on a “fool’s errand” all over Tuscany in search of a man whose existence seems to invalidate all the wonderful years Claire spent with her husband (his grandfather). Many of his objections stem from him not wanting this to tear apart his own memories of being raised by them (his parents are dead), but he repeatedly points out the potential consequences of this trip and the devastation it might wreak. What if Lorenzo doesn’t remember her, is married, or dead? What about that, Sophie? Though he strives to be polite, he’s also quite frank in how he handles Sophie’s “interference in our lives.” Charlie is a successful lawyer who does a lot of pro bono work for needy and poor clients who can’t work, much to Sophie’s surprise. He roots himself in traditionalism and good manners, even when he’s angry about Sophie leading them on a “wild goose chase.” Charlie cares a lot about his own past, and his sentimental attachment to his grandfather, but also is just… practical. All the problems he points out are realistic concerns, and some of them turn out to be accurate, when his grandmother gets hurt finding the grave of one Lorenzo and being forced to think about perhaps him dying without knowing she still loved him. He starts out with one view of Sophie that changes over the course of the film, as he comes to appreciate her generous heart and sweet nature, to respect her as a writer, and care about her. Most of his projections about how this is going to turn out are negative; he can’t see any happiness ahead for his grandmother (low Ne). Charlie’s emotions are immature and somewhat selfish, though he genuinely doesn’t want to see the woman he loves get hurt and tries to shelter her however he can. He’s so clueless about how he’s coming across that he doesn’t realize Sophie thinks the woman he’s with at the wedding is his ex girlfriend.

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Charlie at all times tries to be polite, and at one point, criticizes himself or having forgotten his manners. He softens his attack on Sophie on their first meeting, by first thanking her for being so generous to his grandmother and writing a nice letter, and then demands to know what she was thinking and how dare she interfere in their lives this way! He’s straightforward in expressing his opinions, often annoyed at their combined irrationality, and also hates to admit it when he’s wrong. After losing his temper and telling her off, Charlie must force himself to apologize. He assumes pulling out her chair and being extra nice to her will make up for his insensitivity in accusing her of not knowing how it feels to lose someone (he didn’t know about her mom). He spends a lot of the film in a 4ish disintegration, somewhat emotional but also self-absorbed. Charlie is reframing his own motives. He says he’s thinking about Claire, and he is, but he’s also thinking about himself, in how he doesn’t want her to do this. His 2 wing is both romantic, generous, and sweet, and somewhat pushy in his attempts to control the situation, convince his grandma to go home, and in also coming with her, so she’s not on her own (and can’t do anything foolish).