MBTI Type: ESFJ
Lily is far more socially aware than the rest of her family, in that she constantly weighs whether their behavior is appropriate or not when making decisions. She frets over needing to call the neighbors to get Grandpa invited, but also can’t stand to leave him unhappy at not receiving an invitation to Marilyn’s boyfriend’s parent’s house. Once there, she realizes Norman has been insulted by someone to his face, and thinks that he was mocked rather than honored when he receives a prize for best costume, so she insists upon leaving early as a statement of rejection against this insulting behavior. She wonders if they ought to make more of an effort to get Marilyn married off, and wishes she were a bit more “normal” and “more attractive” – measuring Marilyn against her subjective standards of beauty based on her weird family, rather than by looking around her at how “normal” people look and act. She’s caught up in their own little world of isolation and creepiness, which makes it impossible for her to be objective about her family in comparison to the humans all around them. She sees as normal what she’s used to, which is undead stepmothers, creatures in the basement, her father’s wizardry, and dealing with his crackpot experiments. But she maintains an air of semi-normality in her little habits, which include taking care of her family, making them breakfast each morning, and insisting upon a kiss from everyone on their way out the door. She never thinks to question anything about her life, beyond the obvious – Lily just assumes that her actions are all normal, and that Marilyn needs a life similar to her own – that she would be lucky to get it!
Enneagram: 2w1 so/sp
Lily cares deeply for her family and spends a great deal of time thinking about how to enrich their lives through her own supportive methods – she wants to help Marilyn find and keep a boyfriend (she has rotten luck with them, though they can’t figure out why), she affectionately tolerates Grandpa’s nonsense and encourages him to keep inventing things, and she puts up with Norman’s abnormalities and eccentricities without too much fuss, although she does worry about protecting him whenever he roams the neighborhood at night. She wants inclusion from the community to some degree, even if she can’t figure out why no one wants to associate with her and so many people run screaming from their house. She also has a side to her that demands her family behave properly, not be rude to total strangers, learn self-discipline (or in some cases, make sure the pet knows it’s not okay to track mud all over the house) and isn’t afraid to tell people off.