Function Order: Fi-Se-Ni-Te

When Dan asks Gretta why she writes songs, she says, “For me, for my cat.” She also writes them to give them as gifts because “I can’t afford anything else.” She doesn’t understand her boyfriend’s need to become famous, pander to other people, or change their shared musical compositions to get more likes, and tells him that he has “lost the song in production,” and she wants him to play it the way they wrote it. She has no interest in fame, in changing herself to be anyone else, or in altering her appearance to get more fans. Though interested in Dan’s relationship with his family, Gretta is somewhat closed-mouthed about her own disappointments in love. She reaches rather rapid judgments about other people, such as assuming Dan was the person to walk out on his family, rather than that he got dumped by his wife and had his entire life fall apart. She does things when she feels like doing them; when her boyfriend says the song she left him on his voice mail “won him over,” she asserts that was not her intention, she was telling him to “f-ck off.” Dan’s offer to record her music doesn’t interest her at first, because it’s not what she wants; she makes an immediate judgment on him upon their first encounter (saying she doubts he’s a music producer, since he looks like a “homeless man”), but also is open to listening to him. She is frank in sharing her feelings and thoughts (“It’s amazing what you can accomplish when you really don’t care,” and “If you want guys to treat you with respect, don’t dress like that. It leaves too little to the imagination”). She says music needs to come from the soul, and it’s about people’s ears, not their eyes. Gretta is open to and excited about the idea of producing music all over New York, and spits out various destinations where they could cut her record (on rooftops, in gardens, in the subway). She happily sings music and writes songs, and goes along with their ‘crazy scheme’ to produce music all over the city, sometimes grabbing her microphone and running from the police in the process. She tends to stew on her feelings and then act on them, such as working through her feelings and agreeing to meet her ex for coffee, where she immediately wants to know if he’s broken up with the girl he cheated on her with yet, or leaving a song on his voice mail to express her anger toward him. She slaps him upon listening to a song he wrote on the road, because she immediately senses it’s not about her through his body language and that he cheated on her (he says she reads his mind too well). Then she packs up her stuff and leaves him that night. He was gone for weeks to work on the album, in which she admitted she mostly stayed home, but also visited the Botanical Gardens. Gretta can be blunt under pressure – she bluntly tells her friend, who is letting her crash in his apartment, that she hates his music, then immediately apologizes for her rudeness. She tells Dan’s daughter that to get a guy to pay attention to you, you have to play hard to get, and not dress in a way that suggests you are “easy” (and then offers to take her shopping). She asks a record deal why, if it cost nothing to produce and sell, and there’s no overhead, they should get “nine out of ten of my dollars,” and then decides if she’s only going to make a buck the traditional way, she should upload it to the internet and sell the entire album for a dollar anyway. Gretta doesn’t talk about her breakup, but reacts through her actions (slapping him across the face and moving out, leaving him a song on his voicemail, turning down his attempt to reconcile). She gets up and leaves whenever things become too intense.  

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Gretta seems to wind up helping others around her, on a continual basis, and gave up a lot of her time, energy, and talent to a relationship that has since gone into the toilet; when she found out he cheated on her, she flew into a rage and stormed out of his life. Pulled on stage to sing one of her songs, she meets up with Dan and then, for no real reason other than pity for him and curiosity, goes out to drink with him and listen to his offer to produce her music. Once in his life, she is increasingly but sweetly invasive – she starts trying to figure out where his life went wrong and nudges him toward reconciling with his wife; she helps his daughter find her confidence, puts the spotlight on her in a music solo, and teaches her how to dress to attract more positive male attention. She soothes Dan’s ruffled feelings and is honest with her boyfriend when he asks for her immediate reaction to his latest album; she confesses that he has sold out the heart of the music for fame, something she can’t understand. Gretta is somewhat altruistic, in that she practically gives away her music. She feels frustrated that people don’t like her stuff, but also assumes that she can’t expect everyone to love it. She tries to soften her words at times, but can also lash out at people and be rude – for which her 1 wing immediately corrects her behavior (multiple times, she calls herself a “bitch” and apologizes for being mean, rude, or blunt). Her anger rides just beneath the surface and comes forth quickly when roused, but she also cares about helping to heal those around her, including Dan. She gave too much of herself to her relationship, and finds it hard to detach emotionally.