ISFPs relate to other people and the world through their own experiences, and frame things in terms of “how they affect me.” This is where she and Rachel differ on their view of Anna. Because Anna always paid her debts, gave Neff hundred dollar bills for tips, and did right by her, Neff completely believes her and trusts her own experience—which means she doubts that Rachel’s experiences are true. She assumes she is overreacting, lying, and not being a good friend. She chooses to be ‘all about Anna’ and support her to the bitter end of the trial, even going out of her way to help drum up support for her in the public and help her achieve fame. But Neff also trusts what is right in front of her, and doesn’t think about it too much. Her boyfriend warns her not to trust people flashing cash around, because it’s a misdirection from what they don’t want you to see. She shrugs and points to her money, saying it’s real and it’s going to help her achieve her dream of being a filmmaker. She works hard at her job until the bitter end, until she decides to quit her job in the hotel and try to make it as a filmmaker. She dismisses others’ cautioning her against Anna, and prefers to interpret her actions through her own feelings; she chooses to ‘act’ rather than sit on the sidelines passively, even if that’s intending to visit Rikers, shopping for Anna’s wardrobe, etc. She can get blunt and direct under stress, but for the most part, fails to make purely rational decisions. Instead of accepting the facts about Anna, she chooses what she wants to believe about her.

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Neff prides herself on being whatever Anna needs her to be—when she works for the hotel, she hooks Anna up with all the right people, puts her on all the right lists, and considers the time they spend together as “friendship.” She is probably Anna’s only friend, since Anna actually pays her debt to Neff’s boss to save her job, unlike everyone else she stiffed in Manhattan. She is incredulous that Rachel won’t visit Anna in jail, and naturally assumed that they would be trading days, maybe going several times a week, because it feels wrong to abandon someone who ‘needs’ them, who is ‘alone’ and should be able to rely on her friends! Even though she doesn’t wind up visiting Anna at fist, she feels guilty about not doing so. Neff moves into 8 whenever she’s angry, becoming loud and accusatory, defensive and challenging people to ‘say that again!’ But most of the time, she acts out of her need to do what’s right, be there for people, attend to their needs, and stand up for them. She uses her knowledge to get Anna fame during the trial in hopes of influencing the jury and public in her favor (a 3 tactic). She also knows how to influence people, where the popular kids hang out, what lists to get Anna on, and so forth.

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