Nancy is very proactive and reactive in the moment; when she finds out her family needs a new home due to their loss of income, she writes to a caretaker to inquire about a house she used to love in a remote village, all excited about living there and being self-sustaining (with chickens and animals and such). She looks forward to doing hands-on things like gardening and can be very impulsive, such as when impressed by a boy, she invites him over to the house that very afternoon for an “impromptu soiree.” She asks her mother for permission only after she has invited him and received an acceptance, and then throws a grand party for everyone in the neighborhood with very little notice. She is quite emotional, and makes decisions based off her feelings—as she tells someone, she ‘hates the facts’ (more on this in the 7 section), because it interrupts the beautiful ideas in her head. She finds it difficult to get a read on people or respond to their emotions, unlike Julia, who can adapt to their feelings and be whomever they want her to be. Nancy is more straightforward in showing her dislike of people, in being angry with her cousin for not doing any of the work, and in sulking when she doesn’t get her way. She finds it hard to be happy for Julia having found a nice boy, and instead reacts with bluntness by telling her what she knows will be hurtful, to counter-act Julia’s constant references to the “finer life.” She instantly feels sorry for it and apologizes, but is always saying or doing blunt things (like announcing in front of a crowd that they call their landlord the “yellow terror” because she’s afraid the “old man” will turn up and evict them). Nancy has very poor intuition as well – she never guesses anything about what people are hiding from her; not that the caretaker is lying about them having permission from the owner to live there, or that their rent is due, or that he’s making up stories about the ‘conditions’ attached to their rent-free life in the house.

Enneagram: 7w6 so/sp

Nancy clearly comes from the assertive triad, since she’s always initiating everything. It’s her who solves their housing problems by finding them a home with cheap rent (and she goes about this by deliberately playing up their problems and outright lying about their current state of affairs—like many 7s, she doesn’t mind stretching the truth to get what she wants—saying her brother is just a baby and desperately needs milk, her brother has rickets, etc). She is always somewhat confounded to meet people who aren’t as enthusiastic and optimistic as she is; as she says, she doesn’t like ‘facts’ because they interrupt her fantasies about how everything is going to turn out all right. She’s excited to make improvements to the house, but bemoans their lack of money in doing so, because not having it keeps her from the good times she has. When a boy doesn’t take an interest in her, at first she’s upset about it, but then starts fantasizing about who she wants to be, and how impressive she will be when she enters the ball alone (instantly re-framing things into a happier version of events). Instead of looking at the hard work involved in running a farm and a household, she dreams of the veggies and how wonderful it will be to ‘live off the land.’ Her 6 wing brings in a level of attachment, and a desire to have people happy with her; she feels guilt sometimes when she does something wrong (mostly if she gets caught), and is anxious about what Tom might do to her when he finds out the truth (and relieved when he just wants to dance). She tries to make things up to her cousin after hurting her feelings, and eagerly helps out a local girl with her ‘atrocious dress.’

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