MBTI Type: ESFJ

Mary is very socially conscious and aware of what is appropriate to any given situation; she is embarrassed when her husband doesn’t come to a dinner party thrown at their house, because it’s rude to their guests. She easily talks to him about her feelings and stands up for herself, since she addresses her feelings as they arise rather than postponing them or needing time alone to process them. Mary is warm and generally liked, seen as someone in the community who can be relied upon, and who acts like a surrogate mother figure and friend to Charlotte, who confides in her. She encourages Charlotte to follow her heart, always. Mary deeply loves and supports her husband and his many ideas, but she is also more practical than him, focused on what truly matters (their family and community), and has “a few ideas of my own” (including a better spot for the hotel than the one he picked). At first, she holds off on giving her opinions, but as the series unfolds, she becomes more assertive in sharing her different ideas, proposing alternatives, and thinking about ways to profit off their business. But always, her first priority is people, their feelings, their homes, and their overall welfare, and she clashes with her husband when his “business sense” means evicting people from their homes. Any impersonal decision, that doesn’t consider the welfare of others, deeply upsets her.

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Mary’s super-ego tendencies really come out in the third season, when she butts heads with her husband over his desire to displace a poor community and build a hotel there instead. She believes they should help those people instead, and spends so much time there, helping, nursing, and attending to their needs, that she contracts an illness and almost dies as a result. She’s very warm and welcoming with everyone, and insists that Charlotte can stay with them as long as she needs to, without any thought for repayment. Mary often suppresses herself in earlier seasons to be supportive of her husband, but then gets tired of it and carves out a space for herself, including having her own fierce opinions. She has decided ideas about what is proper and improper, right and wrong, and what they “should” do within the community.

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