ISFP 2w1 Characters

Dean prioritizes his own feelings over group harmony; there are many times when he reacts out of what he is feeling, rather than doing what might be seen as socially appropriate, from him chasing down Rory on the bus because he wants to spend time with a pretty girl who catches his attention, to brawling in public over her with Jess, without thinking about where he is or the embarrassment he is causing Rory. When he and Rory have a brief affair after his marriage, Rory tries to stop him by asking about his wife; Dean dismisses her involvement by saying he has tried with her, but she just doesn’t understand him. He has given up and wants the woman he loves, who has always made him happy – a judgment that comes from himself (Fi) whereas Rory’s Fe concerns itself with putting other people first. It’s hard for him to put his own feelings aside to do things, but he will do them if it makes other people he cares about happy (like agreeing to go with Rory to the dance at Chilton, even though dances “aren’t my thing”). Dean is hard-working and impulsive, offering her free pop the first time he sees her at the market to get to know her, following her on the bus to a stop that isn’t his to introduce himself, and making himself useful around the house. Lorelai likes it that he can repair anything from the porch to a missing light bulb, and thinks he’s the perfect boyfriend for a long time because of how useful he is around the house. Dean builds Rory a car and proudly gives it to her, but becomes defensive about it to her grandfather, when he implies it might not be safe. To prove it to Richard, he has the man drive it to a shop and get it checked out; when Richard is impressed, Dean tells him he would never do anything to “endanger Rory.” He quickly gets involved with another girl after Rory and he break up over Jess, and marries her without thinking too seriously about it. Dean shows some tert-Ni in sensing that Jess is going to be a problem, and what he is up to in his ‘innocent’ interactions with Rory. He doesn’t like where it’s headed, so he tries to stop it in its tracks (unsuccessfully). He can be somewhat cutting and rude under stress, such as when he confesses his feelings to Rory and she’s hesitant to respond in kind, he makes fun of her pros and cons list, before storming away and refusing to speak to her. When she tries to apologize at one point after a fight, he shuts the window in her face and pulls the curtain, signaling he doesn’t want to talk.

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Dean eagerly pursues Rory and wants a relationship with her, but finds her mixed signals annoying. He is very open and kind and good-natured, but also aware of the fact that others are judging him. Dean goes over and beyond to make Rory like him, including watching movies he has no interest in and even building her a car from scratch. But when he tells her “I love you” and she doesn’t reciprocate, he immediately gets angry that she can’t figure out her feelings the way he has and storms off. He often tries to “help” uninvited and gets angry when others do not appreciate it, such as when he tries to break up a fight with Jess and almost gets punched in the face. Dean resents Jess moving in on Rory and becomes competitive over her affections. He is frequently annoyed, frustrated, and upset by other people and their behavior. Dean feels obligated to be a good husband and father, but also wants to tune out and justifies his adultery as their relationship being “over” and no longer an emotional investment.