INFP 6w5 Characters

Lewis cares deeply about his wife at first and wants to be a good husband to her, but is also completely irrational in his conclusions about her cheating on him, choosing to spend time with someone he does not like, and won’t listen to anyone else who tells him he’s being absurd or unreasonable. He feels this way, therefore everyone else needs to cater to his demands and do what he wants. He has no real evidence other than his own insecurities and fears, but doubles down on it and ruins his marriage, his reputation, and his entire life, through inferior Te behaviors—sending her away from London, isolating her, having her watched, and finally, kidnapping their son away from her “bad moral influence.” All things that alienate her, upset her relatives, and destroy their relationship, but that makes him feel as if he is in control over it. INFPs in a healthy state are idealistic individuals who see the best in their current situations and look for the potential in themselves and others, but gone wrong, they can become convinced that what they are feeling is the truth, whether it fits the facts, and believe in the fantasies they create for themselves. In Lewis’ case, he has met and fallen immediately in love with a beautiful girl named Emily, but after a few years of marriage, becomes convinced because she is spending time with another man that she is having an affair. At first, he sees this merely as a misstep, and fears for her reputation—but then he allows himself to be polluted by others into thinking she’s sexually involved with this much older man. This fantasy, driven by his own f.feelings of insecurity and paranoia, cause him to reject her. Many of his beliefs about marriage are drawn from low Si ideas about how things are done, how women should behave, their station in life, and so forth, but he also cannot use his Ne accurately and see that his delusions and rigidity are the problem rather than her choice of friends

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Unhealthy 6s can drive themselves and others insane with their envy and frustration tendencies, since they fixate on the problems within their marriage and their partner and refuse to lower their standards or meet them halfway. This is unfortunately Lewis’ entire problem—he is a toxic, insecure, emotionally touchy and reactive man who has a happy life and ruins it when he becomes fixated on a lie about his wife. His refusal to move past it, lower his standards, or compromise with her not only destroys their marriage, but eventually leads to his own sickness and death, because he won’t back down from his wrongful assumptions. He is insanely jealous of an imaginary relationship, and allows it to ruin the real one he could have instead, but refuses to listen to anyone telling him to stop being insensible. He doesn’t see any way forward other than her adhering to his own rules, but when she calls them out for being irrational and accusatory, he becomes paranoid and convinced she is deceiving him. Initially, however, it all starts because others are commenting on her reputation, and he is obsessed with making sure everyone thinks of them as above reproach, and mortified when she “humiliates” him in public by abruptly refusing to speak to the man he asked her to stop seeing in the park, and causing a scene (moving toward unhealthy 3). Instead of reconciling, being content, and trusting his wife, he allows his mental state to deteriorate and then he simply gives up and dies, because he has become so “miserable.” He becomes more and more withdrawn and paranoid, reclusive, and refuses to listen to anyone but himself.