MBTI Type: ISFJ
Dominant Introverted Sensing—a strong emphasis on memories holding personal significance, meticulous, and detailed: Everything in Lily’s life revolves around her detailed memory, her impressions of people and places, and her long-standing favorites, from her deep and abiding love for plants and her desire to open a flower shop to her love for Atlas, her first serious boyfriend to whom she lost her virginity in high school. As soon as she runs into him again, she remembers their time together and feels a rekindled spark, but has moved on emotionally in a sense and continues dating Ryle. When that falls apart, she goes to Atlas for help, because he made her feel safe. She is meticulous in her job, is looking for a long-term relationship, defines herself as “not” a certain kind of girl, and cares a great deal about building and maintaining a family dynamic. She even forgives Ryle and allows him to spend time with their child after separating/divorcing him. Lily hates her mom’s relationship with her abusive husband and doesn’t want to get stuck “reliving the past” in her own romance.
Auxiliary Extroverted Feeling—ease of emotional expression and shaping their actions around how their decisions affect others: She is up front with her feelings and easily puts them into words. She feels attracted to Ryle immediately, but gives him a bit of a hard time for using pickup lines on her. Her compassion for someone she didn’t know introduced her to Atlas, and she took care of him and fell for him when he had no one. She opens up with him, wishes him well, and tells him to keep his distance when he traverses on her boundaries. She does not want to make a big deal of things, and excuses Ryle’s actions a few times, until he assaults her. (Insisting that he hit her by mistake, and giving him a second chance.) She wants her child to get to know her dad safely and maintains a good relationship with her best friend despite divorcing her brother.
Tertiary Introverted Thinking—desires to understand how systems and people function so they can better communicate or figure out how a hack that works: Lily wants to understand the reasons behind people’s actions; she is curious about Atlas and the life he led after he left her side. She is rational enough to know her relationship is not working, and to get out of it after an attempted rape. Lily asks her mother why she didn’t leave her dad, since he was abusive, and doesn’t want the same thing to happen to herself.
Inferior Extroverted Intuition—curious about the future and in different possibilities, but skeptical of “unrealistic” ideas and allows others to lead the way there: She is free-spirited and wants her future to be good, but doesn’t lock herself into any single thing. Lily defines herself as a traditional woman, someone looking for stability and a family, rather than a short-term fling. She doesn’t realize Ryle is abusive until he shows her behaviors that echo her mother’s life.
Enneagram: 2w1
Enneagram 2—a warm and caring helper, who focuses on doing all they can for specific chosen others: Lily does not let others define what she wants for her life for her, but is good at drawing boundaries and knowing what she wants. She never second-guesses her decision to be with Ryle once she gives him her heart until he abuses it; then shifts her affections back to Atlas. She likes to take care of the men she falls in love with and show everyone kindness. She meets her best friend by talking to her, not taking any of her remarks about the shop personally, and offering her a job. Lily meets Atlas by taking him food once she finds out he’s homeless and is squatting in an abandoned house; she tells him he can use their shower, and even sleep in their house, whenever he has a need. She doesn’t want to deprive Ryle of access to their child, and allows him back into her life temporarily.
1 wing brings in a gut-driven sense of being right and a desire to help others improve themselves: She is opinionated and decisive; she tells people to leave her alone, to mind their own business, and that she is uncomfortable with this conversation. Once she leaves Ryle, she never second-guesses it.
