ENFJ 3w2 Characters

Viola is an ENFJ, and not the healthiest one you have ever seen (which is why it’s so funny). Viola can be a charming and likable woman, who makes everyone adore her… or she can drive you absolutely insane. In fact, that’s what she decides to do when she feels threatened by her son’s impending marriage. She decides, “I will drive her away by being clingy and needy and nuts,” because her brain automatically knows just how to be the most exasperating person on the planet. EFJs are so attuned to other people’s emotions, when they “go bad,” they know just what buttons to push to knock people over the edge of their sanity. But, glimpses of her true emotions shine through as well—she can be earnest and sincere, she is genuinely touched by Charlie’s emotions when she threatens to call off the wedding (her assistant points out that Viola made an assumption that her son wasn’t happy, which isn’t true). Viola changes in that moment, because she sees how driving them apart is going to hurt the person she cares the most about, and how hurtful it is also to Charlie, who is a genuinely good person. In that moment, she connects to her on an authentic level, instead of only thinking about her own feelings. Viola, like many EFJs, thrives off of being the center of attention and she knows how to be a gracious hostess, but also how to give backhanded compliments (insults) and make people feel small in insidious ways. Villain EFJs who plays these games with people can come across as innocent to third parties, because they play such a good game in public – a gracious and loving person, super likable and charming, while in private figuring out ways to humiliate their prey, in Viola’s case—buying a gorgeous vintage dress for Charlie to wear to her party but making sure it was too small (implication: you’re fat), making random frowning remarks about her eating habits (“aren’t you afraid you won’t fit into your wedding dress?”; “Kevin always liked thin girls”), wearing a white gown to the wedding to steal attention. She also displays some of the problematic behaviors of imbalanced EFJs in that she is always upset about something, and complaining to anyone who will listen (mostly her assistant), while never questioning her own motivations for any of her actions. Her middle functions aren’t clear, but two things in particular suggest ENFJ. One is that she devoted her entire life to her professional career at the expense of spending much time with her child (she saw that as the ultimate goal), and the fact that she has had so many husbands, which suggests habitual promiscuous behavior and being impulsive. She also knows just which of Charlie’s buttons to push, which is highly suggestive of a strong intuitive process. And, she leaps to conclusions without any evidence (assuming the only reason Kevin is getting married is because Charlie is pregnant, or that Charlie isn’t right for him and has to be gotten rid of; she replaces his true feelings with her own wrong interpretation of them). And, after she gets fired, he comes unglued at work and throws herself across the stage to attack a shallow musician who doesn’t even know about Roe vs. Wade. She is also always drinking and popping pills, and not particularly concerned about mixing the two.

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Viola is an extremely unhealthy 3w2. She devoted her entire career to being powerful, prestigious, and meeting important people, and after that is taken away from her, she collapses into inertia and a sense of “why bother, nothing matters anymore” as she moves into 9 apathy. She is also refusing to deal with her own feelings and isn’t entirely sure of what they are (she’s afraid of losing Kevin, so instead of admitting to that and having an honest conversation, she starts playing the role of an unhinged psychotic). She can turn off this persona in public—show up, sweep into a room, and impress everyone with her grand stories and fabulous outfits and all the famous people she has met. She mostly uses her 2 wing as a tool to be manipulative—gushy and flattering to gain the approval of her son, and then “faking” it with her future daughter-in-law. She cares so much about appearances, she refuses to show up to the wedding in a dress she hates and insists on stealing all the attention through a white gown accompanied by a gorgeous fur stole. Her ultimate act of love is to wear the awful peach dress to the wedding as an apology for her insane behavior, showing her maturation and growth. Her multiple husbands and marriages suggests a sexual instinct out of control, and a clear concern for social connections and prestige.