ESFJ 7w6 Characters

Dominant Extroverted Feeling – ease of emotional communication and shaping their actions around how their decisions affect others: Joanne is all about opening up and sharing every aspect of her life with total strangers through a podcast. She easily puts people at ease when she meets them and gets them to open up, and it bothers her a lot when others don’t like her, so much so that she goes out of her way to figure out how to change their mind about her. She admits to Noah that she craves acceptance and needs almost constant attention, and her emotional upswings can be a “lot.” Her sister logically points out that she is prone to excessive feelings, even if she denies this aspect of herself, and for awhile this makes Joanne fear that she is “too much” for a calm guy like Noah. She’s highly aware of being appropriate or inappropriate in any given space, and does her best to melt into the crowd and make others feel comfortable around her, but also uses the truth to leverage situations to her advantage sometimes (she catches Noah’s mother eating pork and manipulates the situation into them being “friends”). Joanne is good at either fake-supporting others to get on their good side, or genuinely offering them compliments to make them feel good.

Auxiliary Introverted Sensing – working with what exists and their personal history to make an immediate impact: Her sister says that once Joanne enters a period of domestic bliss and contentment, their podcast becomes “boring,” because all Joanne does is talk about menial things rather than fractured relationships and cynical takes on men. Joanne bases her entire podcast on her own numerous failed relationships, dates gone wrong, and sexual encounters. When she wants to get “in” with a guest, she buys their book, tries out their sex toys, and finds out everything she can about them to lay down the groundwork for a good interview. She’s also more meticulous and on top of things than her sister, preferring to plan out their podcasts and not wanting the creative control out of her own hands. She dumps a dinner date with Noah to rush across town and make sure her sister doesn’t botch an interview with their potential buyers.

Tertiary Extroverted Intuition – an interest in many different possibilities and in seeing connections between unrelated ideas: Joanne wants to expand her business and take it to the next level, by thinking outside of the box, but often her speculations about people and their genuine motives aren’t true. She makes a lot of intuitive leaps in the wrong direction, based on what she sees, experiences, or overhears—her sister is a “liar” who wants to break her up with Noah (instead, her sister was lied to, and just reported what she was told); Noah is still in love with his ex, rather than being completely over his relationship; a missed and unresponded to text means he isn’t interested or she offended him (he’s just busy and distracted with a mini-crisis in the family). Joanne changes her mind quickly about people and situations, reversing her opinions totally and going in the opposite direction (her sister is mean and a troublemaker; her sister is great and adored! … she wants to become a Jew and convert… well, maybe not!).

Inferior Introverted Thinking – critical under stress, can get hung up on the “logic” of things: Joanne becomes very self-critical under stress, and questions why she makes such foolish decisions or whether she’s a good person or not. She asks everyone she knows if she is a good person, because compared to a rabbi, she doesn’t feel that she quite measures up (and everyone confirms her suspicions about herself by saying she’s a jerk).

Enneagram: 7w6

Enneagram 7 – a playful and quick-witted optimist who stays in constant motion and is always looking to the future: Joanne has never had a relationship that lasted before Noah, because she is forever looking for a way to “escape” from her problems and from commitment. She only ever finds fault with the men she dates by looking for something that doesn’t exist in them, and then making money by complaining about them on her sex podcast. When Noah asks her to open up and be vulnerable with her, she becomes uncomfortable and makes jokes instead, tries to sideswipe the issue, and reframes it to put herself in a positive light. Joanne is both an optimistic and energetic person, who stays on top of things, and a bit of a critic, ready to find fault with everyone and everything for not living up to her expectations (her line to 1).

6 wing brings in a desire for a solid support system and occasional self-doubts: Though assertive, combative, and always sure that she is right, Joanne does have occasional bouts of souls-searching, second-guessing, and polling of her family and friends (mainly her sister) about “what to do.” She becomes upset when she realizes how much like her mother she is, and how her “drama” and emotional ups and downs make her difficult to live with, and assumes that Noah won’t want to deal with her constant angst. She changes her mind rapidly about him, one minute insisting he’s engaged and she can’t see him, and the next going out to dinner with him and becoming involved. After she sends a text and he doesn’t answer it immediately, Joanne has a meltdown and assumes she said the wrong thing and that he doesn’t like her now or find it “funny.”