ESFJ 6w7 Characters
Dominant Extroverted Feeling – ease of emotional communication and shaping their actions around how their decisions affect others: Mrs. Bennett is a satirical emotionally dominant woman, who judges everything by how it affects her and those around her, but who actually isn’t as in tune with other people and their feelings as she might like to believe. She thinks others should sacrifice their individual feelings for the greater good of everyone involved—that Lizzie is being selfish by turning down Mr. Collins (since it means they will all be turned out of the house one day), for example. She often airs her own feelings in an attempt to convince her husband to change his thinking, and get on board with her various schemes, and then wails and complains until he gives her what she wants.
Auxiliary Introverted Sensing – working with what exists and their personal history to make an immediate impact: Mrs. Bennett is thinking about her family’s best interests, through a traditional route—marriage, husband hunting, and sometimes brings her own life experiences into it, talking about how much she liked the young officers and how one of them had her heart, and may have it still, if she is honest with herself. She focuses on the tangible things in her world—money, property, and appearances, but is also opportunistic in sending Jane off in the rain so that she’ll have to stay a couple of nights at Bingley’s house.
Tertiary Extroverted Intuition – an interest in many different possibilities and in seeing connections between unrelated ideas: Her low Ne moves back and forth, changing its mind about everyone and everything, based on how she feels about them at any given moment. She will wail and complain and think the worst is surely to happen one minute, and then completely change her mind and re-frame things positively and refuse to accept the truth about people in the next. Such as thinking Lydia is a tramp for running off with an unmarried man one day, and then being so proud of her gorgeous, accomplished, MARRIED daughter the next and flaunting it and not being able to understand why she can’t live a few miles away, as if the damage done to their family name has totally left her mind.
Inferior Introverted Thinking – critical under stress, can get hung up on the “logic” of things: She doesn’t really ever think to question any of her own actions, decisions, or assumptions. Mrs. Bennett becomes very hurt by people making logical arguments, and doesn’t understand things unless they are framed in emotional terms (“I don’t understand that, why should that be?!”). She hates to hear rational reasons for why people do the things they do that she doesn’t like and won’t listen to them, choosing instead to rely on how she feels about them instead.
Enneagram: 6w7
Enneagram 6 – a humble, loyal, kind individual who questions everything in a desire to understand it: Mrs. Bennett is always looking for the worst in life, anticipating the death of her husband and the day they all get thrown out of the house by Mr. Collins and Charlotte, thinking ill of Charlotte for marrying him in the first place and blaming her family as being out for whatever they can get (meanwhile, trying to do the same for her own daughters), accusing her husband of not caring about her poor nerves (he doesn’t, haha), worrying about her husband tracking down Wickham and fighting in a duel and being killed by him, and so forth. She is quite emotionally raw, reactive, and negative at times, drawing attention to herself and how much she suffers…
7 wing brings in a sense of fun, humor, and laughter, or avoidance of pain through mental distractions and adventures: … but then can turn around and use her 7 wing to re-frame whatever has just happened, and go from angry negativity into happiness in a split second. The instant she hears Lydia is getting married, it’s all right again! She has to proudly tell everyone that her youngest is married, she wants to be at the wedding, and so forth, without a worry in the world. She dislikes Darcy until she doesn’t; hates on Bingley until she changes her mind after his proposal. Etc. But she’s doing all of her scheming from a head type perspective; anticipating, planning, and strategizing how to get all of her daughters married off in a way that financially benefits the whole family.
