ENTJ 6w7 Characters

Amanda is a highly successful woman, who lives in an enormous house (all paid for herself), who edits movie trailers (“and that’s why they pay me the big bucks!”). She’s a frank, opinionated workaholic who admits she hasn’t had a real vacation in years, who breaks up with her boyfriend without shedding a single tear. She talks to herself when she’s alone. She has devoted her entire life to building a career and not having a steady home life, and once she finds a guy she likes, she immediately falls into bed with him (while assuring him that “I don’t normally do this”). She cannot even enjoy their time together, because she is busy thinking and planning ahead to all the ways this won’t work, how hard long-term commitment might be, and how to get around that. Amanda cannot stop thinking about what is coming, rather than being “right here.” She can be impulsive and reactive under stress, punching her ex in the face and throwing him out of her house when she catches him cheating, deciding on a whim to fly abroad at Christmas rather than stay home (and trading her house for a remote cottage in the process). Amanda is so bored in the country with nothing to do, she almost packs up and flies somewhere else where she can lay on a beach “in the sun,” but Graham persuades her to stay. She tries to make a “rational” decision about things… except, she finds out the heart sometimes wins! She asks her boyfriend, “Why does it bug you so much that I can’t cry?” Amanda even tries. She can’t even force it. She doesn’t cry until she realizes how much she’s going to miss this guy. Then, the waterworks start. It makes her happy. She finally is in touch with her heart. Prior to that, Amanda struggles a lot with her feelings. She’s not sure how to handle them (they give her heartburn!). She doesn’t want to trust them. She puts them off, ignores them, and sometimes yells them: “I would NEVER cheat on you. EVER.”

Enneagram: 6w7

Amanda finds it impossible to live in the moment, without thinking about what’s going on, the choices she is making, and trying to avoid committing to something that has no future. She finds herself drawn to Graham, but has panic attacks about their future together and focuses on all the reasons it won’t work, instead of being able to just live in the present and accept the happiness it offers her right now (Graham can do this; Amanda cannot). She is forever talking to herself, and on their date, interrogates him and demands to know all about him, what he likes, etc., showing her tendency to over-think things and talk too much to avoid her anxiety at being “bad at this.” She waffles on whether or not to stay or go, to commit or not, and then finally decides that she can do this with him, and they can make a long distance relationship work. She is frank and objective, talking about how horrible it is that they say that women over 30 are more likely to get blown up by terrorist than find someone special. Her 7 wing is impulsive and enthusiastic, inclined to leap on opportunities, and easily falls for Graham and the sense of fun and excitement he offers her.